What’s Important to Me

I’m on my way out of town to an appointment that is one of the most crucial to SO and myself. He may get a pancreas transplant, and when I think about that, it’s really hard for me to get worked up about Richard Armitage’s love life. Seriously. I just can’t process it as anything that concerns me.

Also, I’m just happy my kids are happy, and three of them are together in NYC (my son went to visit his sisters, my two oldest daughters who live there). They just sent me a picture of them in front of a building where we rented an apartment during one summer when they were all still at home. A neat little place on East 52nd next door to the River House. Very cool address. That summer changed their perspective radically and their lives irrevocably. I’m glad. I’m tickled, and don’t they look happy? This is what matters to me.



I don’t know what’s important to you, but life is too short to sweat over things that don’t matter. That’s not referring to you, but I hope encourages you.

A Crazy Fan who is so sane when it comes to family and what really counts it would probably make your head spin.

P.S. Still wish I could see The Crucible, but oh well. Maybe later.


  1. Wishing blessings for you and SO. I hope he receives the transplant and that all goes well. Keep calm and may God hold you safely in the palm of his hand.

  2. May all go well with your appointment. Y’all are in our thoughts and prayers. And I agree-you GOTTA keep your priorities straight, absolutely!

  3. Frenz, your kids look happy and thriving. The fullness and RAfrenzy of your life is wonderful. I’m sure you wouldn’t have it any other way. Thank you sharing a peak into your life. And since I believe in prayer, your husband and family has mine.

  4. Thank you, Elaine! I cannot believe the Drs are even talking about this. SO has mixed emotions about it because of his age, and he keeps saying that others who are younger should receive one before him. I understand and would probably feel the same, but it’s hard for me to say no to this if it get closer to a reality. I’ve sen the hell he’s been through with this disease and through no fault of his.

  5. Thank you, Angie, and you are in mine as well!

  6. Thank you, miapatgonia! Prayers mean a lot to me.

  7. I am praying for all of you. May God bless and keep you.

  8. Thank you. I receive that! :)

  9. Frenz, your head and heart are right where they should be…. you and your SO are in my prayers, that this will all play out perfectly in God’s time, and with His peace all over you. Your SO sounds like a doll, worrying about other people instead of himself…. that is special and not everyone would feel like that. Hugs and blessings to you both.

  10. Thank you, SH. I really appreciate it, and it is very humbling to receive an organ. He felt that way about the kidney too, but I couldn’t stand watching him waste away any longer.

  11. Keeping my fingers crossed for you and your SO. I hope he decides he can accept a new pancreas.

    The photo of your children is gorgeous.

    we were talking about celebrating the good stuff over dinner last night. I’ve had a horrible few days due to a tragedy in my workplace but yesterday was also the 10th anniversary of my SO’s kidney transplant. We thought of all the wonderful things that have happened since then, raised a glass to his donor (his brother) and celebrated being a family.

    Woke up this morning to news that people are cancelling tickets to the theatre and just shook my head at the stupidity. And told myself it will pass and be of no importance in the scheme of things.

  12. Well said, and I got choked reading about the 10 year anniversary. I still get overwhelmed almost everyday that SO is doing well and back to his old, charismatic self.

  13. I am absurd, but I had to share another photo. These three are so happy to be together again:


  14. They are beautiful, Frenz! (But you knew that :)

  15. Thank you, SH. Believe it or not, it’s their spirits I find so beautiful.

    Here’s another one, and these three have been clowning around their whole lives, and this kind of stuff used to drive me crazy when it was in my living room. Now I get so maudlin when I see it;


  16. :) – Those “memories light the corners of your mind”, don’t they?

  17. ohmygosh, my husband and I just laugh and cry thinking about those times. He came in and saw these pics and got misty eyed.

  18. Wishing you the best of luck – it’s obviously been a very long hard road so hopefully all goes well for you now.

  19. Beautiful pictures! They are all keepers ;). And yes, this is what matters most…

  20. I send my best and heartfelt wishes to all of you! Family is what matters most – all other things pale in comparison… xxx

  21. Hoping SO’s appointment goes well, Frenz. In the end, its all that matters. That and family and how divine are your kids!

    Also have I been under a rock? RA’s love life? People returning tickets for the London show? Really? What have I been missing?

  22. Thank you all. We will know more in a few hours.

  23. waiting with excited anticipation!!

  24. Love the pictures of your beautiful children. Know that many people are holding you up at this time. It amazes me that, even though most of us have never physically met, we feel a connection. Hang in there and let us know how it goes with SO.

  25. Thank you! And I know what you mean. To me we’re like what people used to refer to as pen pals. : D

    We will know on Friday if he passed the first hurdle.

  26. Thanks for keeping us posted, Frenz.

  27. We got SO’s test results and he flunked for now, but he can keep trying. Neither one of us are down, because it’s good to know he even has a shot.

  28. Love your upbeat attitude. Found a fab thing on Facebook the other day about optimists. It said that an optimist basically looks at one step forward one step back as something like the cha-cha. Sounds good to me. Does it work for you? Best wishes to you both.

  29. Hang in there. Hope you are all ok.

  30. Bummer! That really sucks.

    Keep on keeping on- sounds like you are a great team and look after each other but life is just so unfair sometimes, isn’t it?

  31. That’s disappointing, Frenz, but great to know that the door is still open for him…. glad you will keep trying. Sometimes the timing is everything…. hugs!

    Prue, I like the cha-cha thing! If I can’t move straight forward, maybe I am just dancing instead! Oooh, I can make something out of that :)

  32. SH, works for me! And I reckon Frenz and SO are probably pretty light on their feet as well. ;)

  33. Prue, I bet they are too, love usually helps with that :)

  34. Thank you all so much for the kind words. We are really doing pretty well, but then it’s early yet and SO has more chances. I’d love to say we will feel good when it gets much later, but we’ll see. In the meantime, this video came a day after SO got the news that he failed the test, and it does take the attention away from the issue. A little background before you look at this. SO was at one time a very serious long distance runner and has coached not only our son but one of our daughters to many wins. He has a discipline for athletics that few people ever achieve and his son is just like him. They eat, breathe and sleep this stuff sometimes and drive the rest of us crazy with it. This meant the biggest concern about Son going to NYC to see his sisters was that he would be going at a peak time for training, and our daughters swore to him and SO they would ensure he ran while he was there. When SO saw this video, he sort of snickered but did say, “I hope he really did run.” I just rolled my eyes.

    BTW, the daughter “helping” him run has also been an award winning runner, but she had a pretty serious injury several years ago and now rides a bike everywhere instead. The daughter in red is the one who wrote the song.

  35. I didn’t get to watch your vid till now….. they are so sweet together! And they do enjoy jerking their dad around, don’t they? :) (And probably you too, I’m sure, Frenz :) It was so silly it just made me smile. What a joy to you they are…. even when we or they are hurting, our children keep our lives and hearts so full.

  36. Thanks. I think I will keep them. :D

    I enjoyed them when they were babies and as little kids and teenagers. It was hard to believe that I could enjoy them more as they got older. But I do.

    And they love messing with their dad’s head. Especially about this subject. LOL

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