Who Wants Some Candy? The Ethical Question

I don’t have any. Will this do?

Is it possible to be good looking and have some depth and perhaps above average intelligence? Of course it’s a stupid question since we all know the answer. But somehow people who are good looking can be very self-conscious about being considered beyond their looks. Wonder why that is? Could it be that society treats good looks and depth as mutually exclusive? And makes nice looking people feel that way by not taking them seriously? By making them work a little harder to be heard with respect to anything truly thoughtful? While most or all of you answered yes to the question of depth, the truth is that it’s not uncommon for people who are very appealing physically to struggle with being marginalized about their other attributes, and often the result of what they pick up from others around them.

Then there’s the jealousy that comes with looks. Many know that looks can open doors. But anyone nice looking who has any sensitivity is aware there is an envy that is potentially waiting to bite them. If they really are smart and thoughtful, they will walk the chalk line and never broach the subject of physical appeal. They will effect an oblivious demeanor about others’ reactions unless it’s to downplay them. Because if they ever give any indication they’re aware of it, they will be despised by most.

So what brought this post on? There is a hesitancy among some Richard Armitage fans to formally acknowledge that he is a hunk, and I believe it’s because they are fearful of society’s narrow view about looks. Never mind all of the drooling in forums and blogs about RA’s stunning appeal; to actually generate a moniker of Hunkie of the Year is offensive. Give me a break. LOL!! Let’s not embrace the general view that beauty and depth can’t reside in the same person, which only facilitates the belief. How about we embrace both? Now go vote in the Hunkie of the Year Poll. :D

As for RA’S possible reaction:

Dear Richard,

Perhaps you can just ignore us? Or better yet just enjoy this and realize it takes nothing away from you? As a phenomenal performer, you have a way of making us see way beyond your exterior.

If it’s any consolation, you seem to handle all of the attention with grace, but I hope when the looks fade, that you do not look back in regret about being uncomfortable.

Sincerely,
One of your crazy fans who can’t wait for the rest of the world to catch onto your abilities, and I’m not talking about your looks.

P.S. You were not my cup of tea at first, but I got past it. LOL!

Screencap courtesy of RichardArmitageNet.Com

22 Comments

  1. Ok I admit it, the looks got me in at first – well I am only human.
    But like many others as time went on and I listened to Richard’s audio work, read the sweetest messages to admirers (I personally prefer the term admirer than fan, but that’s just me!) once I looked beyond all the deliciousness of Guy of Gisborne and John Porter, I discovered that this man can really act!

    The Hobbit will convince the non believers of this, 2012 marks only the beginning for Richard Armitage!
    Happy (hobbity) New Year

  2. Exactly. He made us look past his wonderful appearance. Yes, he had to work harder because he is good looking, and it’s helped to make him a great actor. That’s the part I didn’t elaborate. When someone has to work harder to prove they can, it usually makes them better, and I can’t think of another good looking actor who can even compare with him in their abilities. Maybe Daniel Day-Lewis.

  3. My ethical question doesn’t concern the looks / talent issue so much as the fair voting one. I voted, but for me, I don’t feel comfortable referring others to these polls any more. I don’t know about this one, but so many of them have their safeguards transgressed by members of the fandom (including our own fellow RA fans) who then create the possibility to vote more often than the poll rules allow and urge others to do so. In the end I think he’s good looking whether or not he wins the poll. JMO.

  4. This isn’t really about the poll. The contest just highlights a mentality that plays right into the conventional thinking about looks. Of course no one is being compelled to vote in a poll — as if anyone could really do that.

  5. It’s strictly my opinion, but the need to shield Richard Armitage from ‘Hunk’ is just another manifestation of Armitage Protection Mode.

  6. No, no one can be compelled to vote. But it’s not APM, rather, the impulse to build workarounds for gaming what’s supposed to be all in fun is a negative manifestation of CWS. People should do what they want, of course, but I didn’t like what happened the last time. It made it not fun for me.

  7. “Armitage Protection Mode”- APM another to add to dictionary of all things Armitage!! Richard is now classed as “the thinking women’s crumpet!!” according to an article in the UK Daily Mail.

  8. The administrator of thehunkies site has learned about such things and deals with it instead of making a big ass deal as the BBCA site did. That makes it much easier to refer people to this poll.

    I’m basing my post on some fans saying to me that they’re uncomfortable with RA being dubbed a hunk. That’s their prerogative to refrain from the process, but I think they’re helping facilitate this idea a person can’t be good looking and deep.

  9. I would like to vote but unfortunately I need a password. :(

  10. He’s a hunk! Most definitely! But I wouldn’t be here if that’s all he was. Of course you know this :(

    @mersguy I detest that label ‘the thinking woman’s crumpet’ – has he really been referred to like that? I always felt sorry for Charles Dance to whom that phrase was applied for many years, poor man. I hope it doesn’t catch on for Richard.

  11. In my humble opinion Richard Armitage is a HUNK! I don’t mean that in any derogatory way. He is incredibly appealing to me. However, if he was not able ot convey such profound and intense love for Margaret Hale as John Thornton, I would have noticed his looks and would have moved on in no time. Instead, he has moved me with the characters he plays and the fact that he is nice to look at is a bonus.

    As far as the poll is concerned. I voted and got my sister and neice to vote for him too because out of all those men, RA is the best looking man there. But again, if we read that he was arrogant or obnoxious or if he was not able to portray depth to his characters, I would not have bothered. So admiring RA’s physicality is layered with admiring everything else he represents.

  12. Frenzy, I am going to argue with you a little bit and say that beautiful people in our society are highly valued and in many circles, depth or character is secondary to beauty. It is afterall a multi billion dollar industry, I personally think that beautiful people are more often associated with the perception that they do have depth, can do a better job, and may generally get a better ride than someone who may not have the stereotype of beauty considered to be of value in our society. I think we reward beautiful people and thus perhaps the jealousy. Just my two cents. I would not have a problem with anyone calling me beautiful, hot, gorgeous, stunning, LOL! And to be honest, I don’t quite believe anyone who does!

  13. primo- the voice
    secundo-the eyes
    tertio-his personality
    quarto-his BMV
    There is a minimum chance that even Richard will start to belive that he is talented and handsome.;)

  14. What is “BMV”, please?

    I voted for Richard because I believe he is a hunk who is:

    intelligent
    articulate
    easy to understand
    modest
    shy
    sensitive to other people’s feelings
    funny
    and extremely gifted.

    If he were just a hunk, I wouldn’t have bothered following his career with such enthusiasm for the past 12 years

  15. Hi kathryngaul!
    It isn’t another clever mental shortcut , not that I was capable to formulate something like that;) This is a brand of car(“BMW”)

  16. ah ha……..Richard’s charcoal grey hardtop convertible one!

  17. Yeah…LOL!

  18. I have no trouble saying he’s a hunk, because he is. Well, you know how I feel on this subject. ;)

    As for the poll, I will abstain. The BBC poll on any desire to vote in these things and it got pretty ugly.

  19. had to laugh because I usually associate BMV with the Virgin Mary :)

  20. I love this man. So so beautiful. I love to watch movies/shows he’s in just to make myself happy. So perfect.

  21. For me it was the looks that caught my eye, but you can eventually tell if the person has any acting abilities or not. I’ve seen a lot of actors who might look good but can’t act or do roles that odn’t challenge them. With Richard you only need to watch one of his shows to see that he puts in everything he can to that role and (it’s a good thing) because he CAN act.
    So many of my friends don’t even find Richard good-looking (shocking I know) but even they can agree upon that fact that he can act really well. Yay!

  22. First impression is always the last. Even tho that’s not always true..beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

    Well said, love your words..


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