Dreams and the Passing of Time

I’m not quite as up on Google Alerts about Richard Armitage as I used to be, and really there’s no need since so many fan sites keep up. I appreciate that! Plus, it gives me time to do something I really love which is watching videos like this one below from my oldest kid.

She wrote this in a few minutes, taped it and sent it to me. And she’s got about 20 more, since she can’t seem to stop. This one is not perfect, but I love it. Not just because I think it’s a great song and has tons of potential but also for what it represents.

She is pursuing her dreams, which very definitely include a highly artistic facet — writing, photography and music, and who knows what else. It seems when someone is letting their artist flow, it just doesn’t stop. This interview with Viggo Mortensen speaks to the mentality and reminded me of how I really did think as a child — that there were no limits on what I could do or express.

But the kind of focus required for these endeavors has “real life” envious and continually trying to intrude. The ability to ignore real life then becomes paramount to the creative if they are ever to do anything significant. They must learn to hang onto the precious dreams of childhood.

SO and I did not have a great ability with this. We were forever trying to please our parents. Sadly, our parents and others preached such a conservative approach to life that it almost squelched the creative in us. It’s been a fight to keep it alive! Even my father who was fairly unorthodox and highly creative was very conservative when it came to my future. Don’t get a degree in music, don’t play in a band for a living, don’t go off to parts unknown to do photo essays, don’t, don’t, don’t, because (gasp!) you might experience some hard times. This was said incessantly. Guess what? I’ve experienced hard times anyway. Don’t we all?

With our children, SO and I have tried to take a better approach, tried to inspire yet prepare them for what they were getting into without demoralizing them. Don’t be stupid and still pursue your dreams is what we’ve said. Certainly, that’s hard, but anything worth doing…

This was also talked about, and thankfully, they seem to have taken it to heart. Two have ended up in New York to pursue their passions and one is on the west coast doing the same.

And who knows what’s going to happen. At worst, they will always know they tried.

© 2014

In the meantime, this child keeps writing as well as bartending in the city with her sister (they are middle and far right) and going to school (the “don’t be stupid” part):


What does all of this have to do with Richard Armitage? I’m getting to it. It’s been slow, and I’ve dithered around for a couple of years about my diary in the process, because it’s been hard to figure out what I should publish and what I shouldn’t. But I’m determined to finish. I’ve also talked to a lot of people (including all of the people mentioned in the diary), and almost all have said go for it. Even before I started, I had permission from those put in the most unflattering light, but I have still struggled with publishing. I’m very loyal to my family and never want to cause them harm. But I think I’ve come to understand that what I reveal is not harmful but a common reality and perhaps how it resolved in my life will help someone else.


  1. i think the best we can do is lead by example, Frenz.
    I decided to write professionally and then publish, and to this day my age-ing (almost 89) mum doesn’t get it and laughs. ‘What are independent writers?’ she asks and then laughs again. What my dad would have said I will never know as he died 14 years ago before I decided to follow the dream.
    Lest you think it was not a loving background, it was – very much so. But they were products of the Great Depression and WWII where no one dared veer from the path for risk of losing everything. And they were products of the Victorian era too, where etiquette and patriarchal society were everything!
    But our generation is more fortunate and it is that fortune and that freedom to dream I hope my own kids (now 30+ adults) see and take heart from.
    Great thoughts once again from Frenz in a deep and meaningful mood.

  2. Glad you followed the dream! Keep it up!

    Thanks for the thoughts. I think the Great Depression had a great deal to do with my dad’s advice to me. He was born at the beginning of the depression and at one point in his young life went without food. My mother-in-law and father-in-law are the same age as my dad would be, and my father-in-law also went without food and moved 51 times (literally) when he was a kid. It’s no wonder both these men were into stability.

    SO and I have hoped to find a middle ground.

  3. Does that mean you finally admit that SO was right when he encouraged you to write? ;-)

  4. I do. :D

  5. Good girl! :-D

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